Category: Safe Kid Missoula

Fadness Family ~ Part 3

Labor and Delivery! Why Labor and Delivery?” I shouted as we swiftly moved through the dark hallway in the hospital through the Labor and Delivery doors. My fears seemed to of fallen on deaf ears as no one seemed to want to answer my questions, “Why Labor and Delivery? Am I having this baby?” Fear swelled inside me as I rode along realizing it was too early. The baby could not survive yet. The medical staff moved quickly to test the liquid that soaked my pants. It became clear they also did not know why I was wet and my baby’s life depended on finding out quickly. After several very stressful minutes, the results came back negative for amniotic fluid. I just wet my pants, which was embarrassing, but I have never been so thankful. However, they could not find the baby’s heartbeat, so the fear never completely lifted. They told us it was not uncommon to have trouble finding a heartbeat after a traumatic experience, but that was not as comforting as they had hoped.

The shape of the steering wheel started to show up on my chest as a red and purple bruise. The seat belt did not stop me from hitting the steering wheel, but it did keep me inside the car. After x-raying my neck, with nothing broken, just a little bruising, aches, and pain, even though they never found the baby’s heartbeat, they sent me home with a neck brace and advised me not to pick up anything over five pounds. Defeated and concerned, my family and I walked out of Labor and Delivery doors and through the maze of dark hallways until we reached an outside door. As we stepped out into the cool crisp night with nowhere to go and no car to go there, we sat down on the stairs and Tod said, “Now what?”

Stay tuned for the next installment.

Fadness Family ~ Part 2

Our faith in humankind shaken, we stood alone in the dark. Frustrated and scared with the smell of gas and oil mixed with the cool crisp night air, I shivered as I realized my pants were wet. Puzzled, I wondered why I was wet. Right then, I heard Tod yell back to the man in the second story window, “I will shut up—when you call 911!” The man said he would as he pushed his window closed with a bang leaving my family alone again in the dark of night. Exhausted with dread in our hearts standing by our new ‘used’ car that was ripped apart by the impact of the wreak leaving us stranded, the pain from the wreck was starting to set into my neck, back, shoulder—well, really everywhere as I stood there cold and wet—fear filled my heart.

Just when we thought no one was ever going to help, a big man came running up towards us out of breath. “Are you okay?” he asked as he shared he watched the car that hit us driving fast going through several red flashing lights gaining speed before hitting us. As the car spun around and drove back past him, he could not make out the license plate because it was too dark. He described the car as an off white tricked out 1960’s car with a full chrome grill with a headlights set inside the grill speeding the wrong way up a one way street. 

Once the police officer arrived, he talked to the eyewitness first. When the police officer realized I was five months pregnant and possibly noticing that my pants were soaked, the police radioed for an ambulance. They loaded my family safely into the back of the ambulance. I was finally starting to warm up while lying on the stretcher under a blanket as the medic was checking my vitals. My daughter sat silently staring at me wrapped in a blanket in Tod’s arms. I could feel her fear. I too was terrified wondering why my pants were wet. Was it amniotic fluid? What was going to happen to my unborn baby? I was wearing a seat belt. Could that have hurt my baby and tore the amniotic sack? I was too scared to ask or tell Tod about my fear, so I sat quietly as we sped towards the hospital. We heard over the radio that they had caught the driver. My husband and I made eye contact and smiled as it gave us some glimmer of hope that the person that caused this horrifying experience would be held responsible.

Read more of this story next week.

Don’t be there!

Today we want to share a partner blog post. It is from Steve Schmidt of Drive Safe Missoula.

He writes: One of my greatest life lessons came from the 1986 movie The Karate Kid II when Mr. Miyagi (Pat Morita) was talking to Daniel LaRusso (Ralph Macchio) about the “Drum Technique.” He said, “Best way to avoid punch…No Be There!” (Here’s the scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nel9hgv54e0) I’ve used this line a thousand or more times in trainings. It also holds true while driving. The best way to avoid a crash…don’t be there.

Want to read the rest of his story? Click HERE.